Me: Writes post about overcoming perfectionism, starts by changing the title ten times in a row. I have perfectionist tendencies. For me, perfectionism means scrutinizing everything I do, say, and think, and rarely measuring up to my own standards. I think in black and white terms: good or bad, smart or stupid, perfect or unacceptable.…
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I’m Scared to Try
I’m scared to put myself out there. I’m scared to finish my book and release it. I’m scared to post regularly on social media. I’m scared to be noticed. But above all, I’m scared to not be noticed. After months of putting it off, I finally started an Instagram to accompany this blog. Part of…
Read MoreShould You Start a Blog?
Over-saturated. You’ve heard it a million times about a million things. I’ma tell you a secret: nothing is really over-saturated. No market, no area of expertise. What people really mean when they say that, probably without realizing it, is there is an overabundance of average-ness in a particular space. It’s not about what you do,…
Read MoreHow to Silence your Inner Critic
This past week I heard (or read, I can’t remember) the phrase: “Get out of your head and into your body.” It was in reference to creative work. This inspired a light bulb moment. I know that once I start my creative work, and I’ve been at it for a few minutes, my relentless inner…
Read MoreAdult Goals, Childlike Expectations
Whenever I had free time as a kid, which was often, I would craft or play music or write something. All that play is the foundation of the creative skills I have now. I have a burning desire to create everyday, although judging by how often I do it you wouldn’t think so. When I…
Read MoreGetting to the Good Part
I love painting. I hate drawing. In addition to writing, making art is a calling of mine. This means I can’t stop doing it, even though I go through phases of thinking I’m horrible at it. I took most of the art classes offered at my high school, I went to art college for a…
Read MoreRejection Part 3: Actually Getting Over It
I wrote about rejection (twice) as if I dealt with it well. I didn’t. My self-esteem has been in the absolute toilet since July. I sat down and wrote for my book for the first time in a long time on Thursday. My thoughts were bleak as I began to type: This is stupid, terrible…
Read MoreI Don’t Want To
I’ve been confronting my laziness. Every time I find a shred of motivation, I tell myself: “I don’t feel like it yet.” “I’ve been having a hard time, I deserve a break.” It’s easy to give in to my impulse to take a break, to rest, but it never feels right. It never feels like…
Read MoreThe Subtly of Progress
I’m impatient. You’re impatient. We want to start doing something and immediately have it be the best thing that’s ever been done, no matter how firmly the logical parts of our brains tell us that isn’t going to happen. I looked up one day and I had written 20 blog posts. I looked up one…
Read MoreLowering My Expectations
When I decided to write Dark House (the working title of my book), I had some big plans. Some big, ridiculous plans. The first draft was supposed to be done by August 1st, giving me about four months to write it. That date has come and gone and I’m a little under halfway done with…
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K. J. Cole 